Comforting the Grieving with the Bible

Members dealing with grief have become more frequent in these last two years at Elgin. Grief is a painful process. Sometimes leaving a person feeling alone. You just said goodbye to your loved one and yet you can’t stop thinking about them. In fact, now that they are gone you think about them more often. You might even wonder if you will ever feel normal again.


There are many passages of Scripture in the Bible that can walk a person through this rough patch in their life. I will just list a few that you can tuck away, taking them out when it is appropriate to share with someone in grief or perhaps even yourself.

 1. Psalm 56:8 Record my misery;  list my tears on your scroll are they not in your record?

When I was 13 years old my father died of injuries sustained from a car running him and his bicycle off the road. This text helped me realize that I can ask God to record my pain and record every tear on his scroll.
God sees our tears and feels our pain. It is something he values. Remember even Jesus wept. In other translations, King David asks God to collect every tear in a bottle. God is close enough to gather your tears and he even is keeping track of them. Why does God do this? 

2.    Revelation 21:4 He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

One day all of our tears will be wiped away, that is why he keeps a record. No more pain, no more sorrow, no more goodbyes. God will stamp out death.
It may be hard for us to imagine, but it means that we will be reunited with those we had to say goodbye to. No longer will they have cancer or other diseases. The things that robbed us of a continued life with those we loved will be no more.
3.    Psalm 46:10 God says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among nations, I will be exalted in the earth.’

Don’t be afraid of those still quiet moments where you are thinking of your loved one. Being still can also unlock some precious memories you have of your loved one. It is also a time to remember that God is still God and He is still with you always. In this still quiet moment you are sharing with God, God can remind you that your loved one was loved by God. God can give you strength to handle your pain and sorrows. God sees your pain and sorrows and he will give you strength to complete this journey and He is With you Always. If you feel it is getting too tough…

4.    1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.

You might feel really bad right now, and you may feel this way for a while, but when you start to feel anxious this is a perfect verse for you. Remember it because God cares about the way you feel right now. Just imagine your pain written on a piece of paper. Now wad it up into a wrinkled ball and place it in the enormous hands of God. God can take it He’s a big fellow. And those hands of Him will now comfort you. 

5.    Matthew 10:29 Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.

God sees every detail of this world. Nothing escapes His eyes, His heart, or His mind. He loves the little sparrow. And he loves you even more. Just trust Him.

6.    Proverbs 3:5,6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Sometimes your pain will tell you, God, doesn't care, he is too big for your small problems. God is not there. But He tells us NOT TO LISTEN TO OUR OWN UNDERSTANDING. He is there always. He is willing to lead you to straighter paths ones that you can understand So today you might be scared. But know this. God is waiting with his hand outstretched reaching for yours. Just Take it.
When you take his hand he will take this journey with you and...

7.    Philippians 4:19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus.

God’s got this. You may not understand why. But He has a plan for your life and He has a fantastic journey for you. But just in case you want to be sure. List all your cares, all your needs. Take God’s and give them to Him. Pray the list to him and I am sure that he will meet all of them.

Here is my prayer for you.

Father God, I pray for this grieving one. I pray that you will comfort them, I pray that these few verses I found will uplift them at this time. I pray that you will send them someone who understands what they are going through and can also comfort them as I have been comforted.

Help them to know that you are God and that you deeply care for them. Stretch out your hand to them. Thank you, father, for remembering every tear that they shed. I pray all this in the name of Jesus Christ Amen.